Something really hit home this weekend when I was mentoring a group of fathers. It was like suddenly I really saw the wall men have to climb or breakdown. I give out evaluations at the end of every class or mentor session. They always come back with great suggestions and wonderful points of view. But this weekend, there was like a golden sunrise that commands attention. It simply said that the biggest take away from Rocking Dads was “knowing that a new father plays 50% of the role in pregnancy, parenting, and breastfeeding”.
You see in our society, genders have blurred a bit. Both men and women work in most households and share cooking, cleaning, laundry, and other household necessities. For the longest time pregnancy and birth as well as breastfeeding have been mother focused. That time is over whether we like it or not. And just for the record, I love it!
More more I see fathers and mothers coming together both open and ready to receive information about starting a family, birth, pregnancy, and breastfeeding. This my dear friends is totally awesome!
My mission is to call out to all men who are about to become fathers and encourage them to embrace it. I want to see them step up and assume the role they should have. That role is to be the 50% partner in pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding. Let’s not forget parenting. In my classes I offer so many different ways for men to take this role on in a natural and exciting way. Not to mention that there are so many men as of late who are taking this role very seriously. These are the men that can peer support and also mentor their brothers.
Men can support their female counterpart much better than a woman who is a third-party birth worker. Most of the third-party birth workers that are women who I associate with are more excited to train and help the male counterpart learn to assume this role. The person your wife or partner will listen to and turn to most is you. But you have to be present and mindful in order to productively help her. This makes your relationship stronger than it ever has been. If you need help with this, I can definitely help. If you have deeper needs to mend your relationship prior to arrival of your baby, call my friends Baby Proofed Parents in Austin. They are two amazing women who have been counselors for 17 years and specialize in helping you and your partner be the best you can be for your new baby.
I hope this helps! If you need anything, call me at 210–683–0318.
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About the Author
As the father of Eva (9) and Daisy (5), Brian is no stranger to this world of babies and parenting. Both of Brian’s daughters were born by emergency cesarean delivery. Brian assisted his first birth at 19 years old and knew this was his calling. Brian holds a degree in radiology, studied biology and chemistry with an emphasis in pathophysiology and owns BabyVision Ultrasound, San Antonio’s leader in pre-natal imaging. Having worked with over 19,000 expectant families, Brian has taught many childbirth classes and currently teaches the incredibly popular Rocking Dads and Facilitating Fearless Birth. Due to his love of birth and babies, he proudly entered childbirth education as a “Birthing From Within” mentor and San Antonio’s only actively practicing male-doula (or “Dude-La” Brian says, being a surfer from California). Brian and the girls live with their domestic partner Alejandra Rodriguez. “I really love it when the switch is flipped and I know that the new parents really grasp what’s about to happen. That is the moment they are ready to own it!” Brian